Okay this is a touchy subject. Mainly because there is no conceivable reason that anyone in the seduction/dating/relationship world can know the specific reasons you broke up with your ex. It’s an impossibility because there is no one magic reason he or she left you. More than likely it is an extremely complex issue that deals with not only things you’ve done and he/she have done but more importantly who you and your ex are as people. Wow…apologize for the run on sentence. But it’s true. There is no one factor for why you and your ex broke up. However there are a few strategies that you can employ to get your ex back.
Strategy 1: Time
Time is the best cure for getting your ex back. This is a passive strategy that works extremely well. For reasons beyond our control exes are affected by immediate reactions to events in the present. However, there is an old saying “time cures all.” It’s hard to forget how much of an ass you were to her/him last Saturday night but it’s much harder to remember the argument you had with someone 2 years ago. My point being is that most break up causing issues are forgettable with time. This doesn’t cure the issue. Which you will need to address if you want to get your ex back and have them stay with you indefinitely. This does mean that you have to put in the leg work to fix whatever underlying issues you two had in your relationship. For example: most men have a fear of commitment. The truth is that men don’t fear commitment but instead we fear we’ll make the wrong choice and be stuck with that choice indefinitely. Unfortunately for women this leads to less engagements overall and more men stringing them along without a commitment. But this can be combated by strengthening the core values you’ve built with your loved one in your relationship. Thereby making your current bf/gf invested in your time and life together. But getting back to time. I know all of us have share this common experience: Continue reading »
This is by far the number one question people ask me about online dating. “Hey Kirk, how do you write an online dating profile?” The question really is asking how does one create an online dating profile that will increase leads and attract women/men to their profile. There is a specific formula that anyone can use to make a better profile. Here she is:
This seems to be a dominate question in the media as of late. It seems that in Illinois already has 2 bills announced this week. Both of which would require online dating sites to include if they complete criminal background checks on all users and if such checks should be mandatory. I honestly disagree wholeheartedly with this agenda. Now you may think that I’m asshole who wants to purposely put people in danger…not so. But I don’t need the government to become my parents or replace my common sense.
Here we are at the home stretch. If we’re using baseball lingo the previous 3 parts of your hard worked ~5-8 hours of time invested with a girl just gets you into the on deck circle. Now let’s see if we can run the bases.
The third phase of how to get girls comes in the Comfort Phase. The comfort phase is the time you need to spend getting to know the girl, making her feel comfortable around you, making her feel safe, secure and happy with the choices she’s making. That’s a key phrase, “choices she’s making” because you can’t force a girl to do anything. You can present your best self but sometimes things won’t work. She has a boyfriend, is married or just isn’t into you. But don’t let little speed bumps get you discouraged. You can accomplish anything if you put your mind to it. Even overcoming boyfriend obstacles. But I’ll touch on that a little later on. But this phase is where you will spend the majority of your pickup time about ~4-6 hours. This is where nice guys finish first because they are great conversationalists and disarm women.
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Getting girls is easy. Getting girls is repeatable. Getting girls is a process that anyone can learn. Up until recently getting women to like you was a confusing science. In fact no one really understood why certain guys were more successful beyond ideas like “He’s good looking” or “He’s got money.” Luckily, a book came out that revolutionized the entire pickup community; Neil Strauss’ 
(I only suggest books I’ve read and learned a ton from. This is an affiliate link though and if you purchase I will make a small percentage from your purchase.) Although this book isn’t a how-to per say it’s certainly an entertaining primer for anyone interested in learning how to get girls. What I’ve done in the past 5 years is use Neil’s information as well as several other sources (
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How many people actually meet online? Are the Match.com commercials full of shit or do 1 in 5 relationships start online? Is there a stigma against meeting someone online? Most of what we see in terms of advertising leads us down the wrong path. What I want to focus on is the truth behind the online dating claims. So together let’s get down to the nitty gritty and look at some online dating statistics from various research companies. Warning! This article will get quite technical at times because statistics are a mathematical science and without maintaining the science aspect all findings would just be held as opinions but these are online dating statistics not online dating opinions. At the end of each research document I will breakdown the data in a few easy to understand sentences.
. It will blow your fucking mind. In fact I’m going to write a few posts dedicated to that book because it will help you learn how to understand women/men better. I’ll link them here once I write em.
